Loving from a distance

Sometimes, you come to a point in life when you realize that loving from a distance is the only way you can love someone who’s special to you.

I don’t mean the distance-relationship that’s dictated by military service or something similar. I mean when you have to love someone from a distance because they’re toxic to be around. It’s still very possible.

Helen Keller once said, “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” Any time that you really love someone and can’t be with them, it’s hard. In order to make the best of this situation, there are some important things to keep in mind.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.

Helen Keller
  • Make sure that your distance isn’t a matter of trying to prove something or “teach them a lesson”. Don’t be passive-aggressive.
  • Expressions of your love may have to be different than if you were living together.
  • Remember: caring for a person and taking care of them are two different things.
  • Don’t play into guilt-trips of any kind. It never helps.
  • If you’ve hurt them, ask their forgiveness & then just allow them to forgive in their own way & time.
  • If you’ve been hurt, strive to truly forgive. This not only clears the air, should you eventually be able to work things out in the future, but frees you from the heavy emotional weight of bitter feelings.
  • Most importantly, take good care of yourself! Eat well, exercise frequently & take care of your mental/emotional state.
  • Pray for the other person and their well-being. (This doesn’t mean praying they’ll come around to your way of thinking.)

Patience & understanding are still very important – and maybe now more than ever. If you have hope that the distance can be eliminated later on (or even if you really aren’t sure it can be), stay positive, maintain your faith & remember that “love” can survive both time and distance.

Have you had to love someone from a distance? Do you have ideas that made it easier? Share your thoughts in the comments area, below.

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  1. You obviously want to be with your partner, but spending most of your time alone will help you value your independence. You should just embrace it; accept that the situation is difficult and soldier on. If you’re in love, you will make it work.

  2. This is the most painful thing to do. Especially when you know that they have left such a big impact in your life. Everything that you do, you wish you were doing with them. And just so painful every time you think about them. But your advice is the best I’ve come across thus far and will implement it.

  3. I have loved someone from a distance, and still do.
    I was going through a very nasty divorce and this person was counseling me on the phone. He was always there for me. The nature of his job made him a very busy person, but he always made time for me.
    He was very gentle and kind with me , because of that I fell head over heels in love with him.I even confided in him about my love for him, I could tell he felt the same, but he told me he was married and we should not. So we did not, but because of his character I respected him more, I still feel the same about him, it’s been two years now. We still talk every now and then and he still has a soft spot for me , but we keep it very platonic, so because of knowing that I will and can never have him, it makes it even more special.
    I am loving him from a distance and it’s not that bad, so I tell my self.


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