For years, I’ve worked on learning how to better communicate with and understand people. People I work with, new people I meet, but especially those who are dear to me who are closest to my heart. Today, I was reminded of something that I seem to forget from time to time. Even after we get to know someone and tend to think we understand them – we aren’t finished understanding them.
I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.
There are times when I get lazy and think that I heard a person & know what they mean – but I haven’t really taken the time to see things from their perspective. It’s happened to me, too – and to you – to all of us.
We’re never really “done” understanding another person
We’re never really “done” understanding another person – because of the facts that we are all ever-changing and have infinite potential. Making the assumption that we completely understand someone is hurtful. To ourselves and especially to the other person.
So, is it human nature to forget this simple fact – and assume that we know another person through & through? Or…is it my own arrogance that has me make the same mistake on a regular basis?
The road of understanding takes constant effort. When we tire of making that effort – let’s remember that those who have been the most successful in this life are those who have had the greatest understanding of other people. They aren’t necessarily geniuses, they just don’t quit when things are difficult.
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Nice reminder Darling… I look at each situation with a new perspective, even when it’s with the same person that we think we fully understand… Cups Up! xoxo
@Caffeinated OC Mommy That’s awesome. We really do have to look at each situation with new perspective. As you said, even with someone we think we fully understand. It often seems that it’s those who we’re closest to that we take for granted, thinking we “know them” already – but understanding is a lifelong commitment.
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Knowing yourself better helps one to have empathy with others. You are either growing or dying. You are correct in my opinion that it takes effort.
Knowing yourself better helps one to have empathy with others. You are either growing or dying. You are correct in my opinion that it takes effort.
@justjillin Great insight – that a person is either growing or dying. We’re never stagnant! Thanks for sharing and taking a moment to connect. Wishing you an awesome year ahead!