Sometimes, you come to a point in life when you realize that loving from a distance is the only way you can love someone who’s special to you.
I don’t mean the distance-relationship that’s dictated by military service or something similar. I mean when you have to love someone from a distance because they’re toxic to be around. It’s still very possible.
Helen Keller once said, “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” Any time that you really love someone and can’t be with them, it’s hard. In order to make the best of this situation, there are some important things to keep in mind.
- Make sure that your distance isn’t a matter of trying to prove something or “teach them a lesson”. Don’t be passive-aggressive.
- Expressions of your love may have to be different than if you were living together.
- Remember: caring for a person and taking care of them are two different things.
- Don’t play into guilt-trips of any kind. It never helps.
- If you’ve hurt them, ask their forgiveness & then just allow them to forgive in their own way & time.
- If you’ve been hurt, strive to truly forgive. This not only clears the air, should you eventually be able to work things out in the future, but frees you from the heavy emotional weight of bitter feelings.
- Most importantly, take good care of yourself! Eat well, exercise frequently & take care of your mental/emotional state.
- Pray for the other person and their well-being. (This doesn’t mean praying they’ll come around to your way of thinking.)
Patience & understanding are still very important – and maybe now more than ever. If you have hope that the distance can be eliminated later on (or even if you really aren’t sure it can be), stay positive, maintain your faith & remember that “love” can survive both time and distance.
Have you had to love someone from a distance? Do you have ideas that made it easier? Share your thoughts in the comments area, below.
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