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I’m sure we have all been critical and harsh at times in our lives, but we usually feel really bad about our behavior and... Criticism
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A while back, I wrote a post called “Feeling Critical?” It was a small post, but got me thinking a lot about criticism and how it’s so common now, yet so damaging. Today, I’m pleased to feature an article about Criticism, by Granny Moss. This post is to-the-point…and as such, will hopefully make us all think.

I’m sure we have all been critical and harsh at times in our lives, but we usually feel really bad about our behavior and try to make amends when we hurt others. Unfortunately, there are many people in the world who seem to enjoy hurting others and they will go to any means to cause suffering and even destroy others. They seem to think that others in their lives are of no worth or value, as human beings, but only there to be used and abused and then discarded.

This attitude comes from a deep lack of self-worth and self-respect. Because they lack these in themselves they don’t see the worth in other people and have no respect for another person’s thoughts or efforts. They constantly put people down, criticize and make snide remarks, all in an effort to make others feel as inferior as they feel about themselves.

When I was growing up we were taught to be kind and courteous, no matter who we dealt with. We were taught manners in those days. That was back in the days when women acted like ladies and men acted like gentlemen. We were taught to help others and encourage others in their efforts. All this seems to be lost on today’s society. We have become a nation of slobs. We not only dress like slobs we act like slobs. We have become rude and nasty to other people.

Fault-finding, nit-picking and criticism are habits that we get into because we don’t care about others. We become so wrapped up in our petty ‘me first’ attitude that we forget that we all depend on other people, in one way or another, in this world.

It really doesn’t take all that much effort to be nice; to hold one’s tongue rather than snap at someone, to help another who is having a bad day, to try to work out a problem with someone rather than scream obscenities at them, or show some appreciation toward others and their efforts. No, I’m not perfect at it myself, but I do try, and for the most part, with a lifetime of practice, I manage fairly well.

Let’s try to remember that deep down inside everyone, is enough hurt, pain, and sorrow; enough shame, regret, and unfulfilled dreams, to last a lifetime. Who are we to add to that burden?

We’re pleased to introduce Granny Moss as a featured guest writer on ColeRuddick.com. Granny is a great-grandmother who has traveled the country more than once, seeing & experiencing things that Generation X-er’s never will.

Granny has more life experience than most, and, therefore has developed some solid opinions on a wide variety of subjects. Her straight-forward, no-holds-barred writing style helps to present stories and topics that are hard for some writers to touch. Please follow along with us to see more stories by Granny Moss!

 

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  • Keri

    Cole,

    If I may, I would like to offer something that sounded strickingly familiar to the point above. This message was shared by our bishop last week in church.

    "As you prepare, be kind, speak softly and encourage with love. Each of us has a responsibility to one another to help become the best we can be. Enmity, or contention and opposition with one another, is not the Lord's plan. So this week, let's do our best to remove it from our families and relationships, to seek the Lord and His blessings."

    He went on to state that "“that there should be no contention one with another, but that they should look forward with one eye, having their hearts knit together in unity and in love one towards another”

    I loved what you wrote and I loved the message at church. Maybe we all need to consider both of these thoughts.

    • Wow! That's a great thing to remember – and something to strive for. All of us, in every home. I do know how challenging this can be – because there are times when I've been the one to stir contention.

      Often times, we get to where we focus so much on the negative (an action that stems from selfishness), that we find it hard to feel hearts knit together in unity because we're too busy fault-finding & finger pointing over silly things that really, really don't matter in the eternal perspective.

      I've read a lot recently on patience & humility. If we can come close to mastering those in this life, everyone would benefit. Thanks for your comment.