Comments for Cole Ruddick http://coleruddick.com A Voyage of Discovery... Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:54:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Never Mind the Hecklers, Follow Your Dream by Cole http://coleruddick.com/2012/01/never-mind-the-hecklers-follow-your-dream/#comment-5724 Cole Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:54:23 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1703#comment-5724 Absolutely! If we stay true to that voice, it’s easier not to be swayed by the discouragement of others. Absolutely! If we stay true to that voice, it’s easier not to be swayed by the discouragement of others.

]]> Comment on Never Mind the Hecklers, Follow Your Dream by Cole http://coleruddick.com/2012/01/never-mind-the-hecklers-follow-your-dream/#comment-5723 Cole Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:53:04 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1703#comment-5723 Ernie, thanks so much. I appreciate your visit & comment. Ernie, thanks so much. I appreciate your visit & comment.

]]> Comment on Never Mind the Hecklers, Follow Your Dream by Cole http://coleruddick.com/2012/01/never-mind-the-hecklers-follow-your-dream/#comment-5722 Cole Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:00:32 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1703#comment-5722 Deanna, thanks for sharing. What I've found is that many people can relate to your sentiments here. The "high road" is usually not the easy path... but the one which leads to the most growth & is most rewarding in the end. Have a wonderful week, and thanks again. Deanna, thanks for sharing. What I’ve found is that many people can relate to your sentiments here. The “high road” is usually not the easy path… but the one which leads to the most growth & is most rewarding in the end. Have a wonderful week, and thanks again.

]]> Comment on Never Mind the Hecklers, Follow Your Dream by Cole http://coleruddick.com/2012/01/never-mind-the-hecklers-follow-your-dream/#comment-5721 Cole Sun, 05 Feb 2012 04:46:17 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1703#comment-5721 Sharon, glad you started - even if it took a year. I'm working on an article about when it really matters what other people think of us. Obviously, it doesn't matter that people might think we're nuts for betting ourselves & following our dreams. Live it! Thanks for sharing...and best wishes to you! Sharon, glad you started – even if it took a year. I’m working on an article about when it really matters what other people think of us. Obviously, it doesn’t matter that people might think we’re nuts for betting ourselves & following our dreams. Live it! Thanks for sharing…and best wishes to you!

]]> Comment on Can Your Anger Really Hurt You? by luvinlife http://coleruddick.com/2011/09/can-your-anger-really-hurt-you/#comment-5713 luvinlife Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:43:03 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=816#comment-5713 When something gets me really angry, I usually withdraw and (as I say it) crawl into my hole. I think about whatever caused the anger, let myself seethe and simmer and usually within a couple of hours, I am ready to face family and the world again. I might still feel wounded, but I have thought it through enough that I won't say anything hurtful. I explained to my kids when they were younger and to my spouse when I met him, that I like to just be left alone for a bit when something angers me, that when they see me withdraw, they know it's nothing against them. If a family member gets me angry, I get "the look", which means I've been crossed, but I am pretty good about biting my tongue and turning away, going to my 'space' and coming back to talk about it when I've cooled off. My growing up family has a history of angry, hurtful outbursts that I have worked my life to not copy and carry on. I can't say I never burst, but I can honestly say I am able to control myself quite well, and my family doesn't have to endure what I did as a child and still do from my siblings and parents. it isn't fun and I cringe at the thought that I might do that to my family. Through this process, I've also learned how anger doesn't solve anything and I more frequently look for a positive reaction that solves the situation rather than festers it. That lesson was a pleasant one to learn. When something gets me really angry, I usually withdraw and (as I say it) crawl into my hole. I think about whatever caused the anger, let myself seethe and simmer and usually within a couple of hours, I am ready to face family and the world again. I might still feel wounded, but I have thought it through enough that I won’t say anything hurtful. I explained to my kids when they were younger and to my spouse when I met him, that I like to just be left alone for a bit when something angers me, that when they see me withdraw, they know it’s nothing against them. If a family member gets me angry, I get “the look”, which means I’ve been crossed, but I am pretty good about biting my tongue and turning away, going to my ‘space’ and coming back to talk about it when I’ve cooled off. My growing up family has a history of angry, hurtful outbursts that I have worked my life to not copy and carry on. I can’t say I never burst, but I can honestly say I am able to control myself quite well, and my family doesn’t have to endure what I did as a child and still do from my siblings and parents. it isn’t fun and I cringe at the thought that I might do that to my family. Through this process, I’ve also learned how anger doesn’t solve anything and I more frequently look for a positive reaction that solves the situation rather than festers it. That lesson was a pleasant one to learn.

]]> Comment on Video: Rule 1 – You Have to Really Want It by Cole Ruddick http://coleruddick.com/2011/11/rule-1-you-have-to-really-want-it/#comment-5710 Cole Ruddick Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:57:00 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1487#comment-5710 Markku, I truly appreciate your insight! Thank you. Hoping to see you back again soon. Best wishes to you. Markku, I truly appreciate your insight! Thank you. Hoping to see you back again soon. Best wishes to you.

]]> Comment on The Robbing Power of Procrastination by Cole Ruddick http://coleruddick.com/2011/12/the-robbing-power-of-procrastination/#comment-5709 Cole Ruddick Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:55:00 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1662#comment-5709 Bonnie, you're right - things like Empire Ave. can be major time-eaters...but, "all things in moderation"! Using lists is a great way to keep priorities fresh in 'in front of us'. What do you find works best for you now? Bonnie, you’re right – things like Empire Ave. can be major time-eaters…but, “all things in moderation”! Using lists is a great way to keep priorities fresh in ‘in front of us’. What do you find works best for you now?

]]> Comment on The Robbing Power of Procrastination by Cole Ruddick http://coleruddick.com/2011/12/the-robbing-power-of-procrastination/#comment-5708 Cole Ruddick Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:53:00 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=1662#comment-5708 Scott, thank you for your comment. I apologize for not replying sooner for catching up! Hope to see you again soon. Best wishes! Scott, thank you for your comment. I apologize for not replying sooner for catching up! Hope to see you again soon. Best wishes!

]]> Comment on Recipe for True Understanding by Cole Ruddick http://coleruddick.com/2011/01/recipe-for-true-understanding/#comment-5706 Cole Ruddick Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:48:00 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=112#comment-5706 Hey Chris, we all (hopefully) go through times like this in our lives. It's the process of personal discovery that allows us to grow and get past the things (like pride) that may have held us back before. Thank you for sharing your own insight. Wishing you the very best! Hey Chris, we all (hopefully) go through times like this in our lives. It’s the process of personal discovery that allows us to grow and get past the things (like pride) that may have held us back before. Thank you for sharing your own insight. Wishing you the very best!

]]> Comment on Recipe for True Understanding by Chris http://coleruddick.com/2011/01/recipe-for-true-understanding/#comment-5704 Chris Mon, 30 Jan 2012 01:16:00 +0000 http://coleruddick.com/?p=112#comment-5704 "Have you had a change in your perspective that surprised you?" Yes, right now. Thought myself as a person with good empathic abilities. But you're right, there's a thick wall of pride around, which prevents true understanding.Thx Cole. “Have you had a change in your perspective that surprised you?”

Yes, right now. Thought myself as a person with good empathic abilities. But you’re right, there’s a thick wall of pride around, which prevents true understanding.Thx Cole.

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