Any time we allow ourselves to become angry to the point of an outburst, behave in a passive aggressive way or stuff our anger inside, we’re playing with fire and sooner or later, we’ll get burned. It’s a fact that negativity breeds more negative & the consequences of our own angry behavior always hurt us in one way or another.
Sometimes it’s hard to do the constructive thing when we’re faced with frustrations or what we “feel” is an injustice. Sure, letting loose by swearing or yelling at someone, avoidance or other abusive behavior is guaranteed to have a hurtful effect on the person you direct it to. Internalizing our angry feelings will make us more stressed & never helps in actually dealing with the issue. Studies show that repressing anger can actually cause chronic health problems!
[quote type=”center”]How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it. ~ Marcus Aurelius[/quote]
Like most people, I’ve been challenged at times having to not to just let my anger take control. It’s like a bad habit & not an easy one to break. But like anything else, it’s a matter of getting into the habit of doing things in a more positive way.
Take Control, Stop the Cycle
Whatever the injustice, the frustration or cause of stress, it isn’t helped any by continuing to feed into negativity with more angry behavior – that includes continuing to rehash angry thoughts as well as actually continuing to say negative things. It’s a viscous cycle and when tensions & emotions escalate, our control over self & situations spirals down. The more a person allows that to become a habit, the less control they feel they have next time a stressful situation comes along.
We don’t always have time to “stop & smell the roses”. But seriously, take a few moments to cool off & assess what really matters most (and it really isn’t pride). Then, deal with the situation constructively and you’ll avoid turning it into something even worse.
Anger always hurts people. Of course it hurts the ones we dump our anger on, but ultimately it hurts us, too.
What is your immediate reaction when you feel you’ve been wronged? Share your thoughts in the comments, below.
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